Evelynn Benedict

If I said, "a secret/ hidden/ unseen African American lifestyle," would it make sense to you? Would it sound racist?
If I said the same for Asian, Jewish, southern hospitality, Canadian, or really any other cultural group... how would it sound?
If you ask me if I have a secret/ quiet/ hidden BDSM lifestyle, I will block you immediately. That term is highly offensive. If you believe there is such thing, you do not know what BDSM is and should probably avoid talking to me.